A Brief Thought On An Ever-Popular Subject...

... that of kissing. In defense or explanation of those of us who want to wait to kiss until either engagement or the altar (I fall into the former category, at the moment, in case you were wondering), I ran across this quote today:

"The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender, because this kiss already has within it that surrender."

- Emil Ludwig


(P.S. For more interesting quotes on kissing, check out this site.)


Cormack McKinney said...

I think that's a good quote. It's a shame many people give away thier first kiss unwittingly.
I do not plan to save it until marriage, but I do plan to spend it with the person I desire to marry.

Darth_Harbison said...

Okay, so I have a question about this whole deal. Being the theater person that I am, I was wondering what qualifies as a "kiss," and what would count.

If, for example, I'm required for some show someday to kiss someone for whatever reason. Would that truly count as a kiss? Or is it just another bit of theatrical movement? Because it's the same motion . . .

So the question is, really, is a kiss a physical action, or is it a mindset?

Idhrendur said...

I don't know if I'd call it the MOST crucial, but that is a serious decision.

There is way more at stake than physical pleasure.

And as far as just the physical pleasure goes, it's better to take things slow, like good food. Fine food is better when it is eaten to taste the food than to quickly satisfy hunger, and as far as I've experienced, those kinds of physical pleasures are the same way...

Cormack McKinney said...

Darth Harbison:

I've always wondered - in movies where people have sex, do the actors actually have sex in real life?

Ok but anyway... I have some issues with acting, because there are so many fine lines that can carry over into everyday life. But I'm not an actor myself, so I don't really know what I'm talking about. I would say, though, that a kiss in a play or something doesn't count (unless of course it does to one of the people). It's one of those conscious things.

I think that the things that are most important in any action that we do are:
.What are my intentions?
.Will this affect anyone else in a negative way (might it promote sin for someone else or cause any negative feelings such as sadness, anger, or jealousy)?
.Will this have any consequences or bring about struggles later on in my own life (such as pollution of the mind or blocks in my spiritual journey)?

lol I just made them up I'm sure they need refining. But what scripture seems to tell us is that what's in our heart matters more than what we've done.

But like I said, I don't think an acting kiss would count, because it's empty. :P

Warrior of Zion said...

Ha ha Cormack! The thing about sex in movies... I was just talking to AJ about that before he showed me your comment.
I think that it would have to be fake to look real. For most movies it is viewed as a critical scene (not by me personally but...) and "fragile" due to the intimacy and mood of the scene. Remember it is not reality it's a movie; which are fantasies, stories, and dream worlds that we can escape to. Because of this it would have to be fake so that it can be directed, re-shot, repositioned, and perfected to meet the "quality" of the dream world. And I don't imagine that they complete the scene in the five minutes that we see it on film.
Although this is why I believe that most sex scenes are fake, I am starting to wonder because of the liberties that more and more directors are taking with these scenes.

Cormack McKinney said...


Rae said...

depends on what you consider sex i guess... (in most movies) there is no actual intercorse, but as far as the feeling, oral and the like obviously it is. I had an opportunity to go into acting, but ended up not being able to... however I wasn't really bummed out because I wouldn't ever want to kiss (or more) with someone and since it's a growing commonality I decided against it. I don't know if you have kissed someone on stage yet, but although a REALLY REALLY REALLY good actor could pull it off with no qualms, kissing and everything else physical isn't just a mental thing. Although your emotions and intentions have a lot to do with the kiss, we were infact made as physical beings and with those kisses comes hormones (which, are very rarely controllable) I could always ask my uncle mac about it all, he has been acting all his life and I assume he has delt with this. You telling me that if you had to kiss a really pretty and sweet girl that you wouldn't struggle? As far as what this post was originally about :P... for those of you who don't know: I have kissed already... 3 different guys. So, I don't think kissing it's self is a big deal, really it's a sign of affection. Yet I have personally given it up until marriage. This is because although kissing itself isn't so bad it leads me to want more... which isn't good. This might not be true for everyone, but then again, everyone doesnt think about it all that much.

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